The stages of love
A couple's relationship goes through various stages that can be identified as attraction; the romantic or ''I Love U'' stage and finally ''love''.
Attraction
This is the rosy and exciting stage when one person feels strongly attracted and fascinated by the other. These feelings are so strong and pleasant that many people thinks that this is love.
However, the attraction that binds two people together is just the effect of substances called pheromones, which not only alter our senses and make us feel great joy but also make us believe that we could not be happy with anyone else.
This is, the physical pleasure is so strong that the mind remains blinded or fascinated. That's why the lovers do not see their beloved's flaws and even doubt that they could have any . Everything seems perfect.
Along with this lack of objectivity, when someone is in love, he might lie about himself , since he will do whatever he can to win over the person who gives him such pleasure.
In fact, when we are falling in love , what we love in the other person is not precisely who they are, but what we feel when they touch us , talk to us or attract us.These feelings are passing. If during this time the couple has not had the chance to talk frequently and make an effort to know who the other really is, then instead of staying enchanted by pleasant but meaningless exchanges, the relationship will end.
Infatuation is not the stage for the self-giving that comes with sex and married life.
The Romantic or ''I Love U'' Stage
In the Romantic stage, the couple starts to share more and so get to know each other better. When we enter into the world of the other person and discover their tastes, ideas, characteristics, skills, and so on, then the things that really attract us begin to appear, and not just their body. We start to enjoy who the person is , not just the feelings they inspire .
Some of the characteristics that we discovered in the person are real. We can already see some flaws , but they may still be a lot of fantasy or idealization . We love the dreams that the other person awakens in us.That's why it is important to remember that we are just staring to get to know the other person.
But the romantic stage is not yet love. We do not know the other person well enough to know if we should be ready to give them the key to our heart.And if that is the case, then it is sign that we are not yet ready for the full self-giving of sexuality or marriage.
so take your time , give you some spaces to get out of these confusion and when you properly trust your beloved person then you realized that , this is the person whom you want to be and who give you all the happiness that you deserve. Then you are ready for the full self-giving of sexuality or marriage....
Attraction
This is the rosy and exciting stage when one person feels strongly attracted and fascinated by the other. These feelings are so strong and pleasant that many people thinks that this is love.
However, the attraction that binds two people together is just the effect of substances called pheromones, which not only alter our senses and make us feel great joy but also make us believe that we could not be happy with anyone else.
This is, the physical pleasure is so strong that the mind remains blinded or fascinated. That's why the lovers do not see their beloved's flaws and even doubt that they could have any . Everything seems perfect.
Along with this lack of objectivity, when someone is in love, he might lie about himself , since he will do whatever he can to win over the person who gives him such pleasure.
In fact, when we are falling in love , what we love in the other person is not precisely who they are, but what we feel when they touch us , talk to us or attract us.These feelings are passing. If during this time the couple has not had the chance to talk frequently and make an effort to know who the other really is, then instead of staying enchanted by pleasant but meaningless exchanges, the relationship will end.
Infatuation is not the stage for the self-giving that comes with sex and married life.
The Romantic or ''I Love U'' Stage
In the Romantic stage, the couple starts to share more and so get to know each other better. When we enter into the world of the other person and discover their tastes, ideas, characteristics, skills, and so on, then the things that really attract us begin to appear, and not just their body. We start to enjoy who the person is , not just the feelings they inspire .
Some of the characteristics that we discovered in the person are real. We can already see some flaws , but they may still be a lot of fantasy or idealization . We love the dreams that the other person awakens in us.That's why it is important to remember that we are just staring to get to know the other person.
But the romantic stage is not yet love. We do not know the other person well enough to know if we should be ready to give them the key to our heart.And if that is the case, then it is sign that we are not yet ready for the full self-giving of sexuality or marriage.
so take your time , give you some spaces to get out of these confusion and when you properly trust your beloved person then you realized that , this is the person whom you want to be and who give you all the happiness that you deserve. Then you are ready for the full self-giving of sexuality or marriage....
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